Rape Culture

Rape culture is culture in which rape and sexual violence are common, and in which social practices and media normalize sexual violence. Many people do not realize that making jokes about rape culture is not funny, and often times it is promoting rape culture. Rape culture is overwhelmingly shrugged off as “normal” in our society today. Many people are so accustomed to rape culture that they do not even notice it in their everyday lives. The truth is, rape and sexual violence should not be condoned, but rather, taken seriously.

I was disturbed when I saw this ad for belvedere vodka. This ad promotes rape, as well as the assumption that “loosening agents,” such as alcohol or drugs, may help men achieve sex with women. This advertisement was withdrawn from the media by the company shortly after being released and several apologies were published as they should have been. What was even more upsetting was what the first apology said. “We apologize to any of our fans who were offended by our recent tweet. We continue to be an advocate of safe and responsible drinking.” This apology clearly failed to address concerns about sexual assault or offending people that viewed this advertisement. Many people tweeted about the company’s lack of judgment and moral values. After many tweets surfaced about this terrible advertisement, the president released a statement apologizing for the “offensive” advertisement and stating that it was “inconsistent” with the company’s values. Belvedere Vodka felt so ashamed about this advertisement that they even made a donation to the anti-sexual violence organization Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network [RAINN].  Companies need to use better judgment when deciding what to publish because it affects our society in a profound way.

Fight for Reproductive Rights

            Women’s reproductive rights are being threatened by current political battles. Rush Limbaugh made an argument against women’s reproductive rights when he spoke out against Georgetown University law student Sandra Fluke, and women in general for that matter. Rush Limbaugh recently said that if he “was going to have to pay for her to have sex” that she be required to post videos of in on the internet. Women’s reproductive rights are currently at the heart of the debate and the battle focuses on everything from condoms to abortion. Rush Limbaugh is clearly against women receiving any form of contraceptives, especially if his tax dollars help pay for it.  How can legislation even think about taking away women’s rights to choices?

            If a woman’s body is her own, then she should be able to choose what happens to it. If legislation is passed on this topic, then women would not have access to safe and effective types of contraception as well as abortion services. Many of the legislators promoting these laws are men, but where are the women in this decision? Other states like Virginia considered a bill requiring a woman get an ultrasound before an abortion. Laws such as these are cruel and should not be legal. Women should have a choice on what to do with their bodies, without boyfriends, husbands, or other people persuading them. The best way we could solve this problem is to have men take a stand for women and our reproductive rights. Men should speak out and actively promote legislation in favor of women’s rights, support politicians that agree with women’s rights, and promote organizations that offer medical services. Men and women need to stand together on this important issue because it will help maintain some of the reproductive rights that we have tried to achieve and maintain for so long. This issue will not only affect women, but men also. Men should hold great concern in the future of women’s reproductive rights.

Feminism and Marriage

           Despite conservative beliefs, feminism has done more than promoting gay marriages and equal rights. Feminism has made great leaps in making relationships more egalitarian and improving other aspects of partnerships as well. Conservatives seem to believe in the head-complement marriage, where the man is in charge and the woman is the obedient housewife. Many conservatives are homophobic and cannot understand why two people of the same sex would want to be in a partnership together. Gay marriage totally screws up the conservative belief of traditional patriarchy. Although many people think of gay rights when they hear the word feminism; that is not what feminists are primarily fighting for. Feminists are fighting for equality.

            Feminist marriage has already gained so much ground since the 1960’s. Women no longer have to rely on their “looks” to get jobs, and they are not shunned when they choose to work outside of the home. In fact, women are becoming extremely successful in higher education and in jobs or careers. Women are no longer seen as unmarriageable if they are educated; an education actually makes a woman more attractive these days. Marriages are becoming much more egalitarian and women are so much more independent. Men and women are sharing household duties, as well as parenting. With shared responsibilities children spend more time with fathers and bond better with both of their parents. Evidence has proven that relationships that share household chores and parenting result in fewer divorces and increased sex lives. So how can conservatives complain about that? This type of equality in the home may also carry over into other aspects of peoples’ lives, and that would be a great thing. Many couples are much happier in egalitarian partnerships and there is proof to back it up.

Medicalization of Women's Bodies

            Medicalization is the process by which a normal function of the body becomes indicative of disease. In our society, medicalization is becoming increasingly frequent among women. Women are being treated for various normal body functions did not require medical attention in the past. Some women’s body functions that are medicalized in our society today include: pregnancy and menopause. I am going to focus on an article I read about the medicalization of menopause.

            The woman that wrote this article, Nancy Krieger, was going through menopause and she stressed her concerns with the medicalization of menopause. Women tend to seek medical and cosmetic “help” during menopause because aging is seen as something that requires medical attention. Nancy Krieger even writes, “Some medical researchers, health care providers, and drug companies have defined menopause as a hormone ‘deficiency’ condition due to ovarian ‘failure’.” This view suggests that menopause is similar to thyroid deficiency or even diabetes. Some medical providers even claim that if menopause is not treated it could result in other chronic conditions or sudden death. I think this is ridiculous. Menopause is simply a normal part of an aging woman’s life. Since the onset of menopause stops the production of hormones in women’s bodies, “hormone replacement therapy” became an accepted “treatment.” Doctors and women believed that “hormone replacement therapy” would solve all the problems of menopause by boosting estrogen levels in the system. It turned out that “hormone replacement therapy” didn’t solve all the problems of aging, and in fact, it was more detrimental than beneficial to a woman’s health.

            There has been a long history of illness being associated with women’s reproductive organs and hormones. During this time period, many women had hysterectomies in attempt to “cure” many problems. This article also states, “higher education for adolescent girls was discouraged for fear that taxing girls’ brains would ruin their reproductive organs.” In society, we no longer associate education with destroying women’s reproductive organs. We do, however, associate menopause with being something that needs “help.” I believe that many doctors see menopause as something that needs to be treated because they only ever see women that complain about menopausal side effects. Doctors do not get input from healthy women that don’t complain of menopause. I believe that the medicalization of menopause is extremely biased. Menopause is a natural thing and it happens to every woman in middle age. I feel that doctors should suggest alternative homeopathic remedies to menopause because it has not always been something that required medical attention. I also feel that doctors make women feel like menopause is a bigger problem than it really is, by overreacting to it. Women should be able to accept menopause without feeling like they are “deficient” or in danger of other medical problems or death.

http://www.ourbodiesourselves.org/book/menoexcerpt.asp?id=53&chapterID=31

Sexualization- The Negative Effects

            Living in a society that promotes the idea that a woman’s value comes only from her sexual appeal or behavior is horrible. I feel that this problem is much more common that many of us are aware of.  I have a story about a close friend that proves just how traumatizing sexual objectification can be.

            My friend always was confident with her appearance until she started high school. High school was a time when many of my friends changed in appearance and personality. The requirement to be beautiful and sexually desirable in high school determines your “popularity.” My friend took this to the extreme. She went from being a tom boy that liked to play sports and never wore makeup to a Barbie lookalike that wore short skirts and lots of makeup. This did get her the attention she wanted at school but with negative side effects. Boys called her all the time and she had many boyfriends, but they were all short term. The boys were using her because they thought she was “easy” by the way she dressed and acted. She had a new look and hung out with the popular crowd so she thought she had it all. After many relationships failed after short periods of time she was diagnosed with depression. Many of her “popular” friends were not there for her and she developed an eating disorder (anorexia nervosa). I was still there for her. I talked to her about her problems and assured her everything would get better. My friend eventually got help and stopped trying so hard to be the sexualized image of Barbie. After my friend stopped hanging out with the “popular” crowd and she went back to her beautiful, down to earth self.

            My friend did recover from anorexia nervosa but she is still scarred from everyone that used her. This just goes to show some people are only fair weather friends and you should be careful the way you present yourself to other people. You never know what might happen or how any situation turn out. I feel for so many girls that go through this same experience. Girls should be who they want to be without any outside pressures. Everyone should feel beautiful in their own skin.

Women's Bodily Insecurity

Why does it seem like commercials always focus on advertising to women? It has been proven that women account for a majority of sales so this could be part of the reason. On the other hand, some commercials seem to advertise bodily insecurities in women so that women buy products to “fix” these problems. Do you ever notice commercials that promote “fixing” manly bodily problems? You may have seen a few of these commercials advertised to men, but definitely not as many as there are for women. I feel that this is a huge problem with the advertising industry and it is negatively affecting they way women view their bodies everywhere.

An advertisement I see all the time that I particularly took note of was the Vagisil commercials. The Vagisil advertisements focus on the negative aspects of the female body and promote a various line of products to “fix” such issues as: itching, burning, odor, etc. Why is female anatomy promoted as something disgusting that women should be ashamed of? This is so wrong. Women should be proud of their bodies, not ashamed and afraid of what other people might think. Men could help this problem if they didn’t portray the female anatomy as something that needs constant care or the help of certain products. Men could make their girlfriends/partners feel much more comfortable in their own skin if they re-approached the way that they interacted with them. Men could complement their partners or even engage in things like oral sex and this may help women not feel so worried about the way their bodies are. I feel that men could help this problem first and then maybe the media would follow the example. Who knows maybe periods and feminine products will not be awkward topics of discussion in the future.